Breaking the Dress Code Pt. 1

From pompous frills to conservative plaids and now to free-spirited Bohemian shorts; we can all agree that the fashion industry has changed drastically over the past fifty years. Trends have come in and gone out; some of them welcomed by open arms and others mercilessly rejected.

I pride myself in wearing something that reflects who I am, something that I am comfortable in and something that makes me feel confident about myself. I like to know that I am wearing something, not because I saw a mannequin outside of Calvin Klein wear it, but because it makes me feel happy; and this isn’t a really hard task for me. I am a cisgender female with a rather conventional taste in fashion that mostly revolves around Vignette photos that I gawk at on Tumblr and Pinterest. The only restriction I feel when dressing myself up is when I think about misogynists who view my body as nothing but a sexual object.

And while that realization does suck, I don’t have it half as bad as a lot teenagers out there.

Our teenage years are our most insecure ones. We are still in the process of becoming who we want to be, but we haven’t yet outgrown our childish sentiments. Much like an infant, we too find our feelings and emotions to be rather foreign. Our vision of the world keeps changing incessantly and we get caught in a labyrinth while finding ourselves.

Many of us like to express these frolicking emotions in the form of art. Yes, that’s true, even the sulkiest and too-cool-to-dance teenagers out there use some form of art as a platform to vent off their “crazy” emotions.

For some of us, this platform is our fashion choice.

Some people feel empowered when they cover themselves up, when their sexuality and body doesn’t define them; other people feel liberated in wearing revealing clothes or going nude. And what someone else decides to put on their body shouldn’t be anyone else’s.

Even as a child, I found the concept of the invisible dress code that was enforced in all societies in some way or the other, quite confusing. I couldn’t comprehend why someone else cared about my dressing choice. I still can’t.

(more next week…)


The Art of Feminism

Even though the idea of feminism is becoming very popular, there are still many people who don’t actually know the meaning of feminism.

One of the most common misconceptions about feminism is that it’s extremely radical. On the contrary, feminism is just the belief held by people that someday women will get equal rights as men. There is absolutely nothing radical about it. Also, if someone is a feminist it doesn’t mean that they want to suppress men or any of that bullshit. Being a feminist means that you are in support of women enjoying equal rights, not only on a constitutional basis but also in our daily lives, as men.

In the past centaury women have gained recognition and an almost equal status as men in many countries. But some of the recognized equalities are just constitutional or superficial and aren’t actually followed. Since the independence of the United States of America, there has not been any one female president, however there have been several candidates. I’m not saying that we should vote for a woman candidate just because she’s female or because we believe in women empowerment, this will again become sexist.

Rebecca West famously said, “Feminism is the notion that women are people.” In other words. feminism is the sentiment or belief that women are created equal to men and should be treated in the same way.

Being a feminist is also sometimes considered as a negative aspect due to radical feminists or ‘feminazis’ that dismiss the fact that men should be considered equal too. Feminazis is nothing but a more rigorous form of feminism, something that should not be followed. Also, how can you even think about relating a movement advocating for equality to a movement that started a genocidal war?

 Being a feminist is simply displaying the sentiment of women being human beings too. Being a feminist should be like being anti-racist (which is hugely popularized and respected) or being a Democrat. Feminism isn’t something that is restricted only to women, men can also be feminists. Feminism doesn’t only free  women from the restrictions they endured during the past but also it frees men from the necessity of them being dominant figures. People shouldn’t be told how to compose themselves or act on the basis of their gender. Feminism is the hope that one day – hopefully soon, thanks to Emma Watson and other amazing women (and men)- we wont be bound by the limitations that were imposed on us because of our sex.

So in conclusion: feminism is the right of women to be treated equally as men, for women to have the same opportunities and the same facilities as men do. For girls to grow up in the same progressive environment as boys do and for them to have rights to educational remedies.

Feminism is an art, its’s a stand against gender-based discrimination.

Where Rainbows End

I have never loved and hated a book this much in my entire life.

I loved it for all the little things in it, the inordinately long friend-zoned relationship, the heartfelt long letters and the cute short instant messages and the beautiful emails that together comprised the whole book.

I hated it because it was based on missed chances and it made me cry more than twice which is record breaker because I don’t cry that often. I only dropped a singly tear while reading TFiOS.

I honestly have never wanted, at this huge magnitude, to smack Alex and Rosie on the head with Where Rainbows End for missing so many chances and being so completely oblivious.

It’s almost like whenever you think that they’re finally going to get together just like they were meant to, something happens and they miss the chance.

But this book was so good and incredibly well write=It’s the kind of book that stays with you long after you’ve read it. And the characters too; they will never leave you. Especially Alex and Rosie.

The book, apart from all the negatives about missing chances, is also very positive. Rosie is such an optimistic person. It was just so good to read how Rosie took every blow as a lesson and learnt from it and evolved. And even after all the setbacks she had to face, she finally got what she wanted.

While I was reading this book all I could do was sit and read while Alex and Rosie kept constantly messing everything up for their relationship. I so badly wanted to dive into the book and shake both of them violently so that they could get some blood in their brains and make the correct decision next time around.

All in all, the book is definitely a buy and keep and re-read. It’s so good, you’ll fall in love with almost all the characters and learn to forgive the ones that weren’t so good in the starting.

I love it and I no that you all will love it too.

PS: It’s KNOW not NO.

(You’ll get that when you read the book)